As mother’s day closes

I'm so happy we got my mom's sister here in time to see my mom. She came all the way from Germany. They are so sweet together. Instantly I could tell there was a bond that was deeper than any other that's come through the room I'm spending time with mom in tonight.

Christian Long said it perfectly: I do have a mother that I love dearly.

I just wish I didn't have to be reminded of that love quite the way I've been reminded in the past week.

Hat's off to all the mother's around the world! Oh, and Susan Kitchens has some excellent questions to ask your mom if you still have time left to do so.

Here's hoping that this week is better than last.

43 thoughts on “As mother’s day closes

  1. Robert — As this weekend draws near, I wanted to send a quick note to you that I was thinking about your mother’s passing last year…and wanted to you all the best this Mothers Day as you honor her memory. It was wonderful being able to spend time in her home last August, hearing stories about her, and just appreciating the relationship in spirit. Thank you for having that trust/openness.

    And a Happy Mothers Day (early) to your wife for what is coming her way as well. An amazing time for both of you!

    Memory and celebration alike, be well, my friend.
    Cheers, Christian

  2. Robert — As this weekend draws near, I wanted to send a quick note to you that I was thinking about your mother’s passing last year…and wanted to you all the best this Mothers Day as you honor her memory. It was wonderful being able to spend time in her home last August, hearing stories about her, and just appreciating the relationship in spirit. Thank you for having that trust/openness.

    And a Happy Mothers Day (early) to your wife for what is coming her way as well. An amazing time for both of you!

    Memory and celebration alike, be well, my friend.
    Cheers, Christian

  3. I followed here from Gaping Void. I’m so sorry about your mother’s stroke. My father recently had one, but is recovering. I know it’s hard to sit and hold hands, but there’s a lot to keeping the connection and the warmth of human touch. Just being able to be close to her is good.

  4. I followed here from Gaping Void. I’m so sorry about your mother’s stroke. My father recently had one, but is recovering. I know it’s hard to sit and hold hands, but there’s a lot to keeping the connection and the warmth of human touch. Just being able to be close to her is good.

  5. Robert, a couple of weeks ago I had never seen a blog in my life. My boss asked me to do some research into this new-fangled thing called blogging, and in my research I stumbled across your blog.

    I’m not a geek. I’m not an early adopter. I’ve never spent so much as a minute thinking about Microsoft. But as I sat in my little office cube in Phoenix reading your posts about what your family is going through, I found myself crying. I don’t always treat my mom as well as I should, and you have reminded me to cherish the time I still have with her. Thank you for that.

    Thank you for being real and honest about the pain you are going through. It takes courage to make yourself vulnerable. You may never know the impact you have on people’s lives, but you have impacted mine and I want you to know. I am praying for you and your family.

  6. Robert, a couple of weeks ago I had never seen a blog in my life. My boss asked me to do some research into this new-fangled thing called blogging, and in my research I stumbled across your blog.

    I’m not a geek. I’m not an early adopter. I’ve never spent so much as a minute thinking about Microsoft. But as I sat in my little office cube in Phoenix reading your posts about what your family is going through, I found myself crying. I don’t always treat my mom as well as I should, and you have reminded me to cherish the time I still have with her. Thank you for that.

    Thank you for being real and honest about the pain you are going through. It takes courage to make yourself vulnerable. You may never know the impact you have on people’s lives, but you have impacted mine and I want you to know. I am praying for you and your family.

  7. I came across your blog via another Montana blog and my heart goes out to you and your family. As a new part of this greater community we call Montana I hope and pray for all the best to you and the ones you love.

  8. I came across your blog via another Montana blog and my heart goes out to you and your family. As a new part of this greater community we call Montana I hope and pray for all the best to you and the ones you love.

  9. I think everyday should be mother’s day. But since it happens only once a year, why not make the best of it for our moms? Nice post… :)

  10. I think everyday should be mother’s day. But since it happens only once a year, why not make the best of it for our moms? Nice post… :)

  11. Hi Robert

    Hope you and your family are doing ok under the circumstances. It is good to see that you have such a strong support network, both in-person through family, and from your online community. If anything, I think your mother would be proud.

    All the best to you.

  12. Hi Robert

    Hope you and your family are doing ok under the circumstances. It is good to see that you have such a strong support network, both in-person through family, and from your online community. If anything, I think your mother would be proud.

    All the best to you.

  13. Robert, thank you for doing this hard, hard thing in the public of your readers and friends. You’re helping us build something new. I know that doesn’t make this time any easier for you. But by sharing these experiences, we increase the weight of the world – more matters to us – which I think is the same as love.

    So many are with you, Robert.

  14. Robert, thank you for doing this hard, hard thing in the public of your readers and friends. You’re helping us build something new. I know that doesn’t make this time any easier for you. But by sharing these experiences, we increase the weight of the world – more matters to us – which I think is the same as love.

    So many are with you, Robert.

  15. Robert, I first became aware of you and your son through Esther Dyson http://www.flickr.com/photos/edyson/144113580/.

    Thank you for your marvelous sharing of your experience with you mom, your brothers, and her friends. It is clear how much the people in your and her community love each other.

    An elderly woman once told me that the last sense that a person has in the dying process is her hearing. This mean that the soul of the person can hear you even when all other senses are lessened or gone. She told me to know this and to keep talking to anyone I knew who was apparently unable to communicate.

    Some twenty years later, I met a woman who had been burned badly as a young teen in a fire. She was in a coma for over a year. Her mother read the Bible and possibly other books to her every day of that year. When she eventually came out of the coma, she remembered the readings and said they were a great source of strength to her.

    People who are said to have been clinically dead (no brain wave) have returned to life and said that they not only heard everything, but also could view the room from a point somewhere above.

    I hope this information encourages you to keep communicating to your mom.

    We all will leave the earth plane at some time. Spiritual teachers say that we should do what we can to make the passage easier for the person to leave. All the time you have with your mom before she does leave is a gift to both of you. Birth and death are amazing passages. I am happy for you that you have the time to share with her. Thank you again for sharing.

    One more thing: David Pogue of the New York Times has said some really nice things about you in a recent newsletter: http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/11/technology/11POGUE-EMAIL.html?_r=1&oref=slogin
    You family values show in your life and in your blog: values that were instilled in you by your mom. You have many blessings.

  16. Robert, I first became aware of you and your son through Esther Dyson http://www.flickr.com/photos/edyson/144113580/.

    Thank you for your marvelous sharing of your experience with you mom, your brothers, and her friends. It is clear how much the people in your and her community love each other.

    An elderly woman once told me that the last sense that a person has in the dying process is her hearing. This mean that the soul of the person can hear you even when all other senses are lessened or gone. She told me to know this and to keep talking to anyone I knew who was apparently unable to communicate.

    Some twenty years later, I met a woman who had been burned badly as a young teen in a fire. She was in a coma for over a year. Her mother read the Bible and possibly other books to her every day of that year. When she eventually came out of the coma, she remembered the readings and said they were a great source of strength to her.

    People who are said to have been clinically dead (no brain wave) have returned to life and said that they not only heard everything, but also could view the room from a point somewhere above.

    I hope this information encourages you to keep communicating to your mom.

    We all will leave the earth plane at some time. Spiritual teachers say that we should do what we can to make the passage easier for the person to leave. All the time you have with your mom before she does leave is a gift to both of you. Birth and death are amazing passages. I am happy for you that you have the time to share with her. Thank you again for sharing.

    One more thing: David Pogue of the New York Times has said some really nice things about you in a recent newsletter: http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/11/technology/11POGUE-EMAIL.html?_r=1&oref=slogin
    You family values show in your life and in your blog: values that were instilled in you by your mom. You have many blessings.

  17. Hope things are going better for you this week. These kinds of events are never easy to deal with.

  18. Hope things are going better for you this week. These kinds of events are never easy to deal with.

  19. That’s nice to know your aunt got there from Germany. Please continue spending time with your Mom—it will be quite a great time for you to know you are spending this part of her journey with her, and she with you.

  20. That’s nice to know your aunt got there from Germany. Please continue spending time with your Mom—it will be quite a great time for you to know you are spending this part of her journey with her, and she with you.

  21. Oh my…
    I fell into your blog today while reading someone else’s and was gripped by your personal story here. I don’t know you and you don’t know me, but I just wanted to reach out and tell you how sorry I am for the pain you and your family are feeling.

    Funny…I wrote about Mother’s Day when one is raising a child with special needs. If you’re interested, you can read about it on my blog at http://addconsults.com/blog/

    There are similarities (sense of loss) and there are differences. But being a parent and being a child are topics we can all learn from. And reading about it here struck me as a most amazing thing.

    Thanks for sharing your day-to-day experiences during this painful time in your life. Your message needs to be heard and it hit me hard- a complete stranger to you and your site.

    Terry

  22. Oh my…
    I fell into your blog today while reading someone else’s and was gripped by your personal story here. I don’t know you and you don’t know me, but I just wanted to reach out and tell you how sorry I am for the pain you and your family are feeling.

    Funny…I wrote about Mother’s Day when one is raising a child with special needs. If you’re interested, you can read about it on my blog at http://addconsults.com/blog/

    There are similarities (sense of loss) and there are differences. But being a parent and being a child are topics we can all learn from. And reading about it here struck me as a most amazing thing.

    Thanks for sharing your day-to-day experiences during this painful time in your life. Your message needs to be heard and it hit me hard- a complete stranger to you and your site.

    Terry

  23. Robert – it seems as though you are experiencing the ying and yang of life. Although you are going through a gut-wrenching time with your mom right now, it sounds as though you are having an incredible experience with your family and your mom’s community. This is an amazing gift that I’m sure your mother never thought she’d give you and your brother(s), but it is a priceless one. Because of these circumstances you are learning about pieces of your mom that many never get to know.
    You and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers.

  24. Robert – it seems as though you are experiencing the ying and yang of life. Although you are going through a gut-wrenching time with your mom right now, it sounds as though you are having an incredible experience with your family and your mom’s community. This is an amazing gift that I’m sure your mother never thought she’d give you and your brother(s), but it is a priceless one. Because of these circumstances you are learning about pieces of your mom that many never get to know.
    You and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers.

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