The call…

Hi Robert. Very sorry to hear about your mom. Your blog entries about your mom and family in the past few weeks have been beautiful and touching. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Robert
May she Rest In Peace.

So sorry to hear that Robert.

That's terrible news, I'm sorry for your loss.

Robert,

We met in Boston, and I was out at the Syndicate Conference in New York while you were in MT. Anyhow, I know this is a tough time from personal experience and my prayers are with you and your family.

Robert, sorry to hear this, you are in my thoughts. Safe journey.
-H

is Maryam Iranian? and what is ur relationship?

Robert,

I know you only through your blog. We've never met. But you have touched and inspired me--and some of that energy must be somehow from your mom. I'm saddened by your loss.

Babak, yeah, she grew up in Tehran and lived there until she was 14-years-old. She's my wife.

"One day at a time", just deal with it and work through it one day at a time.

And you got a community behind you.

She's a peace now, Robert. It will be a challenge to deal with for the next little while, but you will get through. Thankfully, you have a HUGE support network on which to lean.

I am sorry for your loss.

Robert - our thoughts are with you and your family.

Thanks everyone! You all are great.

Robert, so sorry to hear that. Thanks again for letting us take part in your grief -- this one corner of the web at least has grown more human. We're thinking about you and wishing you the best.

So sorry for you guys and the whole family.

Our deepest condolences from my husband Loke Uei and I. Safe journey and do not forget to take care of yourself and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sorry to hear that Robert. I-90 is down to two lanes through Spokane (http://www.downtownfreewayfix.net has some images to help). Drive safely - it's a long way, I know being a Montana boy myself. Give a ring if you need to break up the drive by stopping in Spokane. 509-979-6724.

Rob Brewer
Tech Support for WSDOT in Spokane.

Best wishes Robert --the world is with you and your family.

Robert,

I'm deeply sorry to hear this. I believe that all of us Scoblizer readers are with you at this moment; while we feel sorry, we also feel that we were made part of your most personal feelings - and made us think about family, health, and all those important things. We need to thank you for that.
My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Robert, I'm sorry to hear about your mom, may she rest in peace. My prayers are with you and your family.

A very difficult time. The loss of your Mother, as I have experienced it, can be the most depressing and upsetting time of a persons life. It is very likely that your Mother would wish you to carry on and continue the good work you have been doing for all of us. Please accept my condolances.

She's in a better place now. Hopefully you can find the peace she already has. Our thoughts are with you in this tough time.

Now get off the pc and go be with your family! :-)

Your work ethic thoughout all of this has been astounding
You really are Scobleman

Robert,

My sympathies for your loss, a safe and tranquil journey in the coming days.

Jason

I'm sorry to hear that.

I still have a note that got me through the death of my dad. The note contains the words of Mary Frye that resonate from the Big Sky. I have to thumb through it whenever I hear of a death affecting a friend:


Don't stand by my grave and weep,
For I am not there.
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond's glint in the snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
In the soft blush of the morning light
I am the swift bird in flight.
Don't stand by my grave and cry,
I am not there,
I did not die.

Best wishes to you and your family in this tough time.

Robert,

Sorry to hear about your loss. May the Lords grace and loving hand be with you and your family at this difficult time.

Hash

My condolences. Take your time with this. In experience, it takes a while to sink in, and a lot longer to reconcile.

I said it before, but here's the best advice I received when my Mom passed away: chin up.

My deepest sympathies to you. Safe travels, and many prayers.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Hold your family close and know that all of us are there with you.

You're family will be in our thoughts this weekend, Robert. Safe travels!

You can never be completely ready for something like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Travel safe.

I'm sorry that you have lost someone who means so much to you. I pray for the best for you and your family. Thanks for the wonderful blog and being open to express yourself with all of us. Take care and God Bless you and your family.

Thankfully she gave you a chance to say goodbye.

Robert, My condolences on your loss. I am another reader of your blog, we have never met, but your openness in posting this most personal of stories is much appreciated. May your you and your family be comforted at this time.

I am very sorry to hear that your mother passed away. For all your brothers, (I just know Alex) keep on with your work and I am sure that your mother would be very proud with you guys.

So sorry to hear this Robert. Having just lost my Mom too I'm familiar with the torrent of emotions that this can unleash, and even knowing it's coming doesn't make it easier. Take care of yourself and think about the good times with your Mom.

I hope you have moments of calm and strength during this time.

Robert, it is with heavy heart I type this. I hope you can see past the grief to know she is in a better place and watching over your whole family now. Knowing this is going to be a tough time and actually going through it is two different things. Relay on family, your son for strength.

I know you don't need to be told this...but remember and cherish the good times you had with her and be thankful you had the opportunity to spend time with her before she passed away. My thoughts and consolences are with you and your family Robert.

Robert, Thank you for sharing this experience with us, and for letting us get to know your Mom. You do have a great community behind you, and around you. Our thoughts are with you and your entire family.

Bob:

Sue and I are very sorry to hear of the passing of your mom. You and your family are in our hearts and our thoughts.

~Steve

Sorry to hear the news. Peace.

Robert,

Just want to say peace to you.
Take care of yourself in all this.

It will be very strange and disorienting. Nothing prepares us for the way the world shifts when a parent goes. Deepest sympathy. Take care, Robert.

Sorry for your loss Robert.

My prayers and with you and your family at this difficult time.

Take care.

*hugs*

When my grandmother passed away, I had a delayed reaction, too. I was fine while travelling back down from Maine and staying with my parents: I didn't lose it until we were leaving the funeral home.

Robert from our family to yours we are deeply saddened by your lost.. David&Lisa Ciccone

Ach

I know it doesn't seem like it know, but in the end, it's better to have a clean end of things, than to spend months waiting for the other shoe to drop. I did that for a year with my dad. You get to hate the phone ringing, because every call is potentially "the call".

I remember when all the relatives had left, and my mom and I were sitting alone in the house, I said "Don't take this as mean, but thank friggin' GOD that's finally done"

She started laughing, and said, "Oh thank god, I thought I was the only one thinking that. I miss Tom terribly, but I could have done without my last memories of him being what he went through in the hospital" Then she really started laughing hard, and said, "He's going to be SO angry that he got creamated...he really wanted to have his body used as fertilizer". Dad had a VERY pragmatic attitude towards death, but he saw a lot of it in Korea.


Death is an end, but not just to life. It's an end to the death watch we go through when things like this happen. My roommate's mom died not long ago, but she didn't have time to even say goodbye. Her mom slipped into a sudden coma, and she had to say goodbye over the phone. It broke her heart, knowing that her aunt was holding the phone up to her ear. She'd have given much to have been able to be there to say goodbye. Ironically, I'd put together a bunch of contributions from her mom, and other friends and family to get her a Gibson SG. didn't know that it would be the last thing her mom would ever give her or help give her.

And if you make it out to Macworld or the WWDC, I'll buy the first round, and probably a few more.

Robert, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time of loss. Words will not suffice; just know you're being thought about.

Sorry to hear about the loss Robert. May she rest in peace.

Condolences, Robert, I wish you peace and strength at this time.

May peace be with you and ur family in this hour of need. My prayers are with your family! Time heals like no other!

May she rest in peace. I am glad, you were able to spend some time with her. Those moments are priceless.

Robert, I am very sorry that your mom is no longer with you. No doubt this sad event has been very disturbing for you and for the many other people who knew and cared for her. I am thinking of you and them in this time of loss and bereavement. I would keep you in my prayers.

So sorry, Robert. Hang in there.

I'm truly sorry for your loss, Robert. I'm struggling to save my service dog--and best friend.

I am very sorry to hear about your mom, my thoughts and condolences are with you and your family.

May she rest in peace.

Sorry to hear this news, our condolences to you and your family.

My deepest sympathy Robert to you and your family.

God Bless.

Rich

I'm very sorry for you & your family, Robert. Be strong -- remember the love.

Our family will keep yours in our thoughts, Robert. Deepest sympathies.

my deepest condolences to you and your family, Robert.

allow me to offer you this quote from Khalil Gibran's The Prophet:

"For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides..."

godspeed.

~C

My condolences, Robert. It's never an easy call to get. I had to put my mother in a nursing home and become her guardian. About a year and a half after that both my mother and mother-in-law were diagnosed with terminal illnesses within two months of each other. One morning I called the nurse's station at the nursing home from work to check on their evaluation of how she was doing. They said she was fine and her order for lunch had just been taken. An hour and a half later they called to tell me that when they'd taken her lunch in to her they'd found that she'd died. That's what made it a shocker for me. There had been no indication it was that close for her. My mother-in-law outlived her by nine months.

Be well.

go well, and you and Maryam too.

Thank you for sharing this publicly, Robert. I know it has been tough, but you have brought a fresh and wonderful compassion to blogging by wearing your private face publicly.

I know that you have touched so many people in so many ways through this process, and we want to touch you back with our sympathy.

Hugs, our friend. Big hugs.

Robert: Linda and I send over our prayers and thoughts to you guys. Keep your chin up.

- John and Linda Furrier

Having lost my father unexpectedly shortly after graduating from college, I am not sure knowing in advance a few weeks of the inevitable lessens or prepares you for losing a loved one.

Be well, best of luck with the road ahead.

Time does wonders to heal all wounds, but you'll also be amazed at how much of your mother lives through you when you thing about it.

John

Hi Robert,
Since meeting you at Microsoft (with Steven Cohen and Marydee in April when Mike and Thiru demonstrated Windows Live Academic Search) I've read your blog and about your journey as you come to terms with your mom's illness. I, too, am travelling down a road of loss as my mum is ill. In plain language, you have caught so many of the feelings I'm going through: shock, fear, grief, anger. For sons, the world is a sadder, lonelier place without the love of our mums. Your posts remind me of the time I need to cherish with mum, and the other loved ones in my life.

Dean
http://weblogs.elearning.ubc.ca/googlescholar

Robert

Our thoughts and prayers are with you buddy

Best wishes to you and your family at this time.

My thoughts are with you Robert.

I have no words to asauge your grief. As everyone else has said it was good that you could spend the last moments with your mother. there is nothing in this world that will make anyone feel older and be a little bit sadder than a death of a loved one. My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

Hi Robert,

I spent Wednesday Evening catching up on you blog, I'm so sorry to hear about your lost.

My own mother (53) died four years ago now, unlike you I was very close to my mother and I know how painfull it was, even thou you were not close someone passing away who is close too you an you may not even know it until they are good. I'm really pleased that you had time to say all the things you wanted.

I didn't know about the world of blogging when my own mother passed away and I really wished I did because I wanted to do (had the need) what you have done here and share your thoughts and memories with people in the commuinty. My thoughts are with you and your family at this very difficult time.

My prayers go out to you and your family.

My condolences, Scoble. Losing your mother hurts deep inside, I know from experience. Take care.

Robert... my sincerest condolences. Very best wishes to you and your family

Sorry to read this, Robert. Best to you and your family...

Robert,

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Robert:
Whether it happens expectedly or suddenly, the death of a loved one is tough; we're never quite ready to let go, it seems.

God bless you and yours.

--Ken--

Sorry for your loss. May she Rest in Peace.

Alan

Robert:

My prayers are with you and your family.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

God Bless,

Kevin

Robert,

I am very sorry for your and your family's loss. Hope you all take care.

Sorry for your loss Robert.

Terrible news, sorry for the loss....

Take care.

Robert,

I am very sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family during this time.

So sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers...

Robert,

I'm sorry your mom has passed away. Thank you for your courage and compassion. Thank you for posting your stories and giving from your grief to the community. What you've written has been woven into my own questions and thoughts, as I've been wrestling with some of the same issues this spring. Thanks for describing where you are, what you are feeling, and how your life is changing. Peace and hugs to you, Maryam and your family. Have a safe journey to Montana and back. With thoughts and prayers...

Really sorry, Robert. Words don't help, time helps, but slowly. As a result of your posts, I was thinking about my Dad, who died last year. In a funny way, I talk more to my dad now than I did when he was around (we were close but lived in different cities). Now, I talk to him all the time, in my head, and what I've found is that I talk now to the best parts of him -- the wise, compassionate, experienced man who loved his family, and much less to the guy who was set in his ways and made attilla the hun look left wing. :) There is a good Anne Lamont book (Plan B) that is a collection of essays, some of which deal with her relationship with her mom, who has passed away.

My deepest sympathies. Stay safe.

Robert - I'm very very sorry for your loss. Be safe and stay close to your wife/family.

Sorry to hear about your loss. Just as a warning, the weather is calling for snow in South West Montana Saturday night, something like 15 inches in the mountains, so drive safe.

My deepest sympathies. May she rest in peace.

My deepest condolences to you and yours, Robert.

You remain in my thoughts and prayers.

My condolences on your loss Mr Scoble. You are strong man and I am sure this experience will make you stronger and more reflective on things.

Hang in there.

Robert:

We don't know each other well, but your postings about your mother have helped me deal with my own family issues. I'm *very* sorry to hear that your mother hass passed.

Take care during your vacation...

Steve Kirks

My most sincere and heartfelt condolences goes to you and your family.

Best Wishes,
Darren

Hi Robert, I am very sorry to hear about your Mom. I have really appreciated the considerate and caring posts about your family life written over the past few weeks. My mom has been valiantly battling pancreatic cancer for several months so unfortunately I can all too easily relate to your situation. Take care.

My deepest condolences to your family, and I pray for healing for your family as you deal with this loss.

Very sorry for your loss.

Sorry to hear of your loss. My most sincere condolences.

Wishing you and your family peace at this difficult time.

This is so sad to hear...our thoughts are with you and your family during this tough time...

I am very sorry to hear of your loss Robert and wish you and send my sympathies to both you and your family.

Dave Verwer

Robert

My condolences on your loss. May we share happy occasions in the future.

Sorry for your loss

Dear Robert, Deepest sympathies to you and yours.

Hi Rob,
I do not have words to express my sorrow at what you have been going through. Just wanted to let you know that you have touched lots of lives and we share this sadness with you. Hope time will take care of the healing process.

Our (family's) deepest condolences on your loss.

Deep condolences, Robert. Sorry to hear about that.
Take care.

I am very sorry to hear of your loss but after the last two weeks your mom is now at peace.
Love and prayers to you and your family.

My condolences to you and your family. Hold them tight, they are what matters.

pls accept my condolences...shes now in god's home...a home He made Himself for all of us... and to you and family left behind i know that god will always guide you and give you strengh ... take care

Robert Scoble and Family
Words cannot begin to heal the heartache you have .
Take time to reflect , go with your heart .
Your words have a huge impact on many people here
Im going through a very similar situation ,,,

Sincerely

John Piercy

sorry to hear
prayers r with u and ur family

You have my sympathy. In losing a parent there's not only the anguish, there's also the feeling of dislocation - of wanting to express your opinion on something and realizing that isn't possible any longer.

Take care.

No matter how long you prepare for a parent's death it is never easy. As so many people said to me, time doesn't heal but does dull the hurt and your memories do help ease the pain. Heartfelt wishes to you and your family.

Thanks for sharing this with us Robert.

Sorry to hear the news ..hope you all are coping okay.

Nige

So sorry to hear of your loss Robert.

I was sorry to hear this news. Please accept my condolences.

I saw my dad's death coming for 10 years and my father-in-law's for a year. And still it surprised me twice.
I wish you strength.

I was away on a business trip and only learned of this today, Robert. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
   I know what you are going through and as so many above have said, the loss of a parent hurts like heck. You may begin noticing, however, that although your Mom has passed from this physical world, that connection you have with her, which you felt while you worked in Washington state, remains almost identical. That is the love she has for you, and it will always be there.

Robert,
I am very sorry to hear about your mom.
Our condolences to you and your family.
best,
vassil

A poem for you -- one which has helped many move from the pain of death back to the joy of life:

Grieve Not

Grieve not, nor keep my memory fresh

With flowers laid daily on my grave,

I am not there, 'Tis but the earthly shell,

My soul has gone to Him, who gave.

Hold me not forever dead,

for Death Is but a moment's passing,

then the Light, And into G-d's kind hands,

I rest Forever, from my earthly flight.

But if on a summer's day, you hear a singing bird,

Or see a rose pearled with morning dew,

I bid you, think of me with smiling lips,

For such were mine, each day of Life, with you.

- Beth M. Spaulding

Robert my prayers continue to be with you and your family. May the bond between you have grown even closer as a result of this loss. Life has a way of keeping us grounded as to what really matters at the end of each day.

Remember somone once said. . ."God is in the pause" so take a moment of reflection each day to listen what is being said today.

Mr. Scoble,
Nothing I can type can really add to what's already been typed. Having lost my dad Nov. 5 after a long on-and-off fight against cancer, I can somewhat understand what you are going through (though, no one truly can).

You and your entire family have my full condolences and well-wishes.
Mike

Robert,
Wishing you strength and well wishes for your family.

Howard Greenstein

I'm really sorry about your loss... That type of thing is never fun...

A similar thing happened to me a while back.

The good news is that it does get better over time. You just have to let it heal on it's own.

Robert, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Best wishes to you and yours.

I am deeply sorry about your loss. My truly condolence to youy and your family.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I just lost my mom in December.

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