The eight ways you can be my friend (or enemy) online

August 28, 2007 By

Two posts caught my eye this morning:

Steve Rubel: The Web changes how we define friendship.
Donna Bogatin: Real friends don’t share.

I’ve been hanging out in my Kyte chat room on and off since Sunday and one of the most common misperceptions is how online worlds deal with the issue of “friendship.” The misunderstandings here are really deep. Particularly on how Facebook tracks your friendship online.

1) People don’t understand what the difference between a “real” friend and an “online” friend is.
2) People don’t understand that Facebook can tell the difference between my enemies and friends (and I have both on Facebook and Plaxo, since I accept everyone’s online friendship, if requested).

Anyway, I cover this in two videos:

Part I of the eight ways you can be my friend (or enemy) online. 20 minutes.
Part II of the eight ways you can be my friend (or enemy) online. 4 minutes.

I mention Mark Lucovsky of Google in this video because he Faceslammed me. Funny, Google’s new Facebook app doesn’t work for me. Maybe he should have had me test out Google’s Facebook application before releasing it to the world. :-)

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  • http://www.vaspersthegrate.blogspot.com/ vaspers the grate aka steven e

    With all due respect, videos are a bad way to disseminate information, and so are audio podcasts.

    You are brilliant, a role model for us all, but please consider making text summaries, and text versions of your recent controversial videos.

    Video and audio are nearly impossible to parse, to quote, and to deep link.

    Thanks, friend. Keep up the boat rocking!

  • http://www.vaspersthegrate.blogspot.com vaspers the grate aka steven e. streight

    With all due respect, videos are a bad way to disseminate information, and so are audio podcasts.

    You are brilliant, a role model for us all, but please consider making text summaries, and text versions of your recent controversial videos.

    Video and audio are nearly impossible to parse, to quote, and to deep link.

    Thanks, friend. Keep up the boat rocking!

  • http://scobleizer.com/ Robert Scoble

    You just found #9: do you watch Scoble’s videos or not? Heheh!

  • http://scobleizer.com/ Robert Scoble

    You just found #9: do you watch Scoble’s videos or not? Heheh!

  • http://darmfield.com dawn m. armfield

    The Google App doesn’t work for me, either.

    We have similar friends and apps but I don’t write on walls a lot. I figure that your wall is busy and I don’t much to add.

  • http://girl-inchoate.com dawn

    The Google App doesn’t work for me, either.

    We have similar friends and apps but I don’t write on walls a lot. I figure that your wall is busy and I don’t much to add.

  • http://www.sugarattack.com/ William

    Yes, i hope i can be your friend Robert but Kyte sucks as a way to distribute video. Quality is just too bad to watch. Put something in writing :)

  • http://www.sugarattack.com William

    Yes, i hope i can be your friend Robert but Kyte sucks as a way to distribute video. Quality is just too bad to watch. Put something in writing :)

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  • http://www.rluxemburg.com/ rslux

    I may have said this before, but it bears repeating: Those of us who work in open offices and/or cube farms have a very hard time getting away with watching video during work hours.

    Even if I could make the case to my boss that watching the Scoble Show has bearing on my work, it’s still disruptive for my co-workers.

  • http://www.rluxemburg.com rslux

    I may have said this before, but it bears repeating: Those of us who work in open offices and/or cube farms have a very hard time getting away with watching video during work hours.

    Even if I could make the case to my boss that watching the Scoble Show has bearing on my work, it’s still disruptive for my co-workers.

  • http://scobleizer.com/ Robert Scoble

    Headphones?

  • http://scobleizer.com/ Robert Scoble

    Headphones?

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  • http://www.daivddalka.com/createvalue/ David

    Text translation?

  • http://www.daivddalka.com/createvalue/ David

    Text translation?

  • http://www.daivddalka.com/createvalue/ David

    P.S. Kyte is a resource hog in Internet Explorer.

  • http://www.daivddalka.com/createvalue/ David

    P.S. Kyte is a resource hog in Internet Explorer.

  • http://www.corank.com/ RBA

    So if I don’t use Facebook, we cannot be friends? Pitty :-P

  • http://www.corank.com/ RBA

    So if I don’t use Facebook, we cannot be friends? Pitty :-P

  • http://www.rluxemburg.com/ rslux

    re “Headphones?”

    A fair point, but not every office encourages or even allows their use.

  • http://www.rluxemburg.com rslux

    re “Headphones?”

    A fair point, but not every office encourages or even allows their use.

  • rohit

    1.) then find a new employer.
    2.) scoble, try to go back to interviews with the power players.

  • rohit

    1.) then find a new employer.
    2.) scoble, try to go back to interviews with the power players.

  • http://www.shahine.com/omar Omar Shahine

    “People don’t understand what the difference between a “real” friend and an “online” friend is.”

    Actually, I think People have an easy time with the difference, the problem is that none of the social networking sites have a mechanism for segregating your friends accordingly.

  • http://www.shahine.com/omar Omar Shahine

    “People don’t understand what the difference between a “real” friend and an “online” friend is.”

    Actually, I think People have an easy time with the difference, the problem is that none of the social networking sites have a mechanism for segregating your friends accordingly.

  • http://wordpress.mu/ Truden

    Yes, people don’t make difference between online friend and “real life friend”, which makes me think that they don’t really have real friends.

    @William(#4) – Kyte has very good streaming.
    If a video doesn’t brake in South Africa with our poor ADSL connections then it is quite good. And the quality is not bad at all.

  • http://wordpress.mu/ Truden

    Yes, people don’t make difference between online friend and “real life friend”, which makes me think that they don’t really have real friends.

    @William(#4) – Kyte has very good streaming.
    If a video doesn’t brake in South Africa with our poor ADSL connections then it is quite good. And the quality is not bad at all.

  • http://scobleizer.com/ Robert Scoble

    Rohit: a couple new interviews will be up shortly on http://www.scobleshow.com — in higher quality than Kyte, even. :-)

  • http://scobleizer.com/ Robert Scoble

    Rohit: a couple new interviews will be up shortly on http://www.scobleshow.com — in higher quality than Kyte, even. :-)

  • Paul Roundy

    I miss Robert’s writing. The video doesn’t do it for me for a host of reasons. The irony is that the video seems to devalue RSS. I want to read a whole article via my reader. In fact, it also seems to break your full feeds only rule in an odd way Robert. I realize you are in the video business these days but it would be nice to be able to read your stuff.

  • Paul Roundy

    I miss Robert’s writing. The video doesn’t do it for me for a host of reasons. The irony is that the video seems to devalue RSS. I want to read a whole article via my reader. In fact, it also seems to break your full feeds only rule in an odd way Robert. I realize you are in the video business these days but it would be nice to be able to read your stuff.

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  • Mo.

    never accepted mine “online friendship” on facebook – a regular reader of your blog

  • Mo.

    never accepted mine “online friendship” on facebook – a regular reader of your blog

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  • http://www.yald.com/ Patrick Grote

    Paul … agreed 100%. I don’t have time to watch/listen to the thing all the way through. With text I can scan and read what interests me.

    This does have a plus, though. You no longer need to worry about partial vs. full feeds.

  • http://www.yald.com Patrick Grote

    Paul … agreed 100%. I don’t have time to watch/listen to the thing all the way through. With text I can scan and read what interests me.

    This does have a plus, though. You no longer need to worry about partial vs. full feeds.

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  • http://www.oursheet.com/ Mario Ruiz

    Hi Robert,

    The advantage of Youtube over TV is the ability to find the “home-run,” “touch-down,” or how Beyonce fell in Orlando in seconds and watching in a minute.

    Long presentations (more than 2 minutes) is a step back in the fast notion of the sharing the info of Web 2.0.

    Mario Ruiz
    @ http://www.oursheet.com

  • http://www.oursheet.com Mario Ruiz

    Hi Robert,

    The advantage of Youtube over TV is the ability to find the “home-run,” “touch-down,” or how Beyonce fell in Orlando in seconds and watching in a minute.

    Long presentations (more than 2 minutes) is a step back in the fast notion of the sharing the info of Web 2.0.

    Mario Ruiz
    @ http://www.oursheet.com

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  • bueller

    I don’t accept everyone’s friend request on facebook, thats crazy talk

    http://www.drunkenpanda.com

  • bueller

    I don’t accept everyone’s friend request on facebook, thats crazy talk

    http://www.drunkenpanda.com

  • http://www.alisonbryan.com/thoughts/ Alison

    Deaf here – didn’t get a word of that. :(

  • http://www.alisonbryan.com/thoughts/ Alison

    Deaf here – didn’t get a word of that. :(

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  • http://www.informednetworker.com/ David Mackey

    I’m not a big fan of video either – text summaries are good.

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